The point of this silly admission...
Rather, there are a few points to be made. First of all, in efforts to not obtain my communications degree, I passed many long hours in lecture, hearing time and time again, how important it was that I "know my audience." So, I ask a variation of that question now, "who is my blog audience?"
See, I DID learn something in college, and my monthly student loan payments ARE worth it!
As if it wasn't already clear, my blog audience, so to speak, are my fellow mommies, coping, and the single dads, struggling. (I will touch on this later.) Oh, and I can't forget the occasional doting grandparent. You know who you are!
Subsequently, another communication point I wish to make, or questions I pose to ask, are (1) how do I communicate with my partner? Specifically, by what means do I express my emotions, and when? Do I convey my thoughts clearly, so as to be understood by my partner, or do I let anger undermine my good intentions? Also, do I emote in a time-appropriate manner, or do I wait until the issue is a problem? Do I listen with an open-heart, and comprehend my partner's viewpoint? (2) How do I communicate with my child? (3) How do I communicate with myself? (4) And lastly, how did my parent's ability to communicate with each other affect all of the above?
Now, the arduous task of digging deep to unearth the answers.
I believe I'll sleep on it, and have a long, soulful think.
To be continued...
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You must learn first to choose your battles. It will save your sanity and your relationship. If your partner is easy to communicate with sit down and talk to him. If not I have found that letters can be quite effective. You can not interrupt one another and you can clearly express your feelings.
ReplyDeleteDon't forget it's the little things that count as well. Put your head in his lap and watch a movie together whilst the baby naps. Leave a note on the 'fridge telling him how great he is or cheering him on if his facing a daunting day. I slip notes into my husband's lunch box sometimes too just to let him know I care. To communicate with Aksel only takes a smile. And to communicate with yourself means you must be honest. Do not make excuses for yours or his actions. As my brother says "It is what it is" and you can either accept the way "it" is or take the steps to change it. You are ultimately responsible for your own happiness!!